• Today's Verse

  • Veterans’ Day in 1979 started badly and got worse.

    potplantA partner and I owned a plant and pottery store in a small strip center. My partner created handmade pottery in her home studio, and I managed the store.

    The day started with the sewer for the whole shopping center backing up in our toilet. As usual, I was alone in the store when I discovered the problem. I called the landlord for help, then I opened the back door, a few steps from the restroom, and started bailing water and dumping it out in the alley. A plumber sent by the landlord arrived, spent a few minutes assessing the situation, then left for more tools.

    Instead of closing the store (a lesson for another What I Learned From …), I kept the store open and continued to make periodic trips to the back to bail water.

    Shortly before noon, a man entered the shop. There were several restaurants in the center, and it wasn’t unusual for men to come in on their lunch hour. This man looked like a typical customer, though I noticed that he had his hands in his jacket pockets. However, it was a cold day (cold for south Texas anyway), so I didn’t think anything of it. I greeted the man and asked if I could help. “No, thanks,” he said. “Just looking.” As he was browsing, I went to the back to check on the plumbing disaster.

    The man followed me to the back door. As soon as he determined I was alone, he pulled his right hand from his pocket. In his hand was a gun, which he pointed right at me. He demanded money, and I gave him the cash in the register and the receipts from the previous day (which hadn’t been deposited because it was a bank holiday). He then tied me to a shelf near the back of the shop, stuck the gun in my belly, and molested me. I was terrified and felt horribly violated but was blessed that what he did was relatively minor.

    He left with the threat that if I reported the incident, he would come back and kill me and my whole family. I heard the front door open and close … but I couldn’t be sure he left because a small gazebo built into the center of the store blocked my view. I waited what seemed like an eternity but was probably only a few minutes, then I struggled free of my own cloth belt that he had used as a rope. I ran out of the shop into the store next door, and the shopowner called the police.

    Later that day, I heard from another storeowner in the center that an employee in her second store had been robbed and assaulted about an hour before I was robbed. The robber matched the description of the man who robbed me.

    My store was in a small suburb, and the other store was in a different small suburb several miles away. We soon learned that this robber was robbing and assaulting women in strip centers throughout the city. Each time, he left his victim tied up with her own pantyhose or other item of clothing. Each time, the assault was more serious. A couple of days later, the story took up half of the front page of the local newspaper with a lurid headline about a serial robber targeting women alone. Police predicted that if he wasn’t captured soon, assault might progress to murder.

    Three different jurisdictions were investigating: the police departments in each of the small suburbs and the city police department. My husband Jack made contact with the detectives assigned to the cases in each department. He quickly learned that each jurisdiction wanted to be the one to capture the headline-making robber. Rather than sharing information, each was working as a lone ranger. So Jack took it up himself to be the coordinator between the departments. He gathered all the information each detective had, then he called the others and passed on the information.

    No one had reported seeing the robber leave the scene, but several people reported vehicles leaving the various shopping center parking lots near the times of the robberies. Each department was looking for vehicles matching the descriptions reported to them; each had different descriptions of the cars seen leaving parking lots in their jurisdiction.

    One report described a late-model gold sedan with dealer license plates. Jack passed this description on to the other two departments. The detective in the other suburban police department said, “I’m going out to catch that so-and-so [maybe not his exact words] today.” He drove through the community checking the parking lots of all the small strip centers. About noon, he saw a late-model gold sedan with Georgia license plates (the same color as Texas dealer plates) speeding out of a strip center parking lot. The policeman took off after the car and turned on his overhead lights to signal the driver to stop. Instead of stopping, the driver sped to the nearby freeway and headed north. Along the way, he passed through the city and the jurisdiction where my shop was located. Police cars from both departments joined the chase.

    Finally, after many miles of high-speed chase, the driver pulled off the highway and into a service station. This was in the days of full-service gas stations, and an attendant walked out of the building toward the car. When a half dozen police cars with lights flashing and sirens blaring followed the gold sedan into the station, the attendant backed into the building.

    arrest Surrounded by police, the driver obeyed orders to get out of the car with his hands up. He surrendered without resistance.

    The gun he had used in all the robberies was on the front seat beside him, and the police found a victim tied up in a store in the shopping center he had sped away from.

    The rest of the story is for another day. This post is an entry in Middle Zone Musings’ group writing project What I Learned from the Law.

    I learned many lessons from this experience - about dealing with a crisis in a retail store,  about being alert to danger, about overcoming trauma … and more.

    Here is what I learned specifically from my contact with the law.

    • Teamwork and sharing information are more effective than working alone.
    • When detectives and police departments (or any individuals or groups) are more interested in who gets the credit than in solving the crime (or any problem), the crime (problem) will be more difficult and take longer to solve.
    • When you’re a victim, you have to be proactive (or have a proactive advocate as my husband was for me). To the police, you’re just one of dozens or hundreds of victims. To you and your advocate, you are THE victim.

    I hope you never have the opportunity to learn lessons from being a crime victim, but if you are ever a victim, I hope the lessons I’ve learned will be helpful to you.

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    29 Comments »

    Comment by Joanna Young
    2008-03-10 04:20:16

    Lillie, what a life you’ve led!

    Thanks for sharing your experiences once again, I’m sure that your airing of these issues and situations, and how you dealt with them, will be of benefit to others.

    Joanna

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-10 23:35:21

    Thanks, Joanna. I hope my experiences will be helpful to others.

     
     
    Comment by Robert Hruzek
    2008-03-10 05:39:21

    Lillie, thanks for sharing these important lessons!

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-10 23:35:54

    Your writing projects always make me think, Robert.

    Comment by Lori
    2008-03-12 12:30:36

    My lord! How terrifying! Lillie, I’m very glad you are here to share that story, and that you were able to extract some very sound lessons from it.

    Great post.

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-12 12:56:17

    Thanks, Lori! I’m glad I’m here to tell the story as well. Guess I haven’t used up my nine lives yet. :-)

     
     
     
     
    2008-03-10 07:05:26

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    Comment by Laura Spencer
    2008-03-10 08:59:28

    Wow Lillie!

    What a gripping story. It must have been terrifying for you. Thanks for sharing your experience.

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-10 23:37:42

    It was terrifying, Laura, but - as is usually the case - good came from this, too. This led to my leaving the retail business and starting my interior landscape business.

     
     
    Comment by Sewell
    2008-03-10 13:49:11

    That is probably the most dramatic thing i’ve ever read in a blog. I’m glad you survived. How traumatizing! Do you suffer from any post event anxiety?

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-10 23:40:47

    I could never again work in the store alone. We kept the business going through Christmas to try to get rid of as much inventory as possible, but I opened the store only on days I had someone working with me. For a while, I panicked when I saw a man walking toward me with his hands in his pockets.

    But I was fine after a few months.

     
     
    Comment by Jeanne Dininni
    2008-03-10 17:44:06

    Wow, Lillie, what an intense experience!

    It must have been terribly traumatic. Sorry to hear that you had to go through it, but glad you had your husband to advocate for you and that you yourself were able to assume the attitude of an overcomer. Thanks for sharing your hard-won lessons.

    Jeanne

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-10 23:41:39

    Thanks, Jeanne. I am really blessed to have my husband, and this is only one of many reasons.

     
     
    Comment by Renae
    2008-03-10 21:51:35

    Lillie, thank you for sharing so transparently. I am so sorry that happened to you, and so glad the man was caught. Thank you for sharing what you learned with the rest of us.

    –Renae

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-10 23:42:45

    Thank you, Renae. I hope my sharing will encourage others to experience difficult situations.

     
     
    Comment by Cryxellis
    2008-03-11 05:48:29

    What you have just experienced was really gross.. the incident on your store was an accident and you didn’t know that such thing will occur.. and you are really blessed for having a husband just like him. Now no more worries since the criminal was caught and no more people will be harmed by him again.

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-11 07:24:51

    I am blessed to have the husband I do.

    What happened from the time the robber was captured until he was finally sent to prison was another ordeal. It took forever and I learned that victims aren’t given much consideration in the legal system. His trial was postponed over and over and over again for almost a year because his lawyer claimed he wasn’t mentally competent to stand trial.

    Every time the case came up in court, the District Attorney’s office called me and told me to be available by my phone the next week to be called to testify. Then the case would be postponed for a month … but no one bothered to let me know. I was just supposed to stay waiting by my phone.

    Again, my husband was my advocate. He and our attorney went to court every time the case came up. They argued against a plea bargain deal the DA’s office was going to make. Finally, he pled guilty and accepted a plea bargain of 35 years on each count to run concurrently.

    Of course, with all the things that happen to shorten prisoners’ sentences, he was paroled several years ago. We protested his parole several times, and he wasn’t released the first few times he came up for parole, but he eventually did get out.

     
     
    Comment by Jackie Cameron
    2008-03-11 11:18:17

    Hi Lillie
    Your 3 tips are very powerful. Thank you for sharing the wisdom you gained from such a harrowing experience. But then I sense you are a very wise woman anyway.
    Jackie

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-11 16:27:45

    Thank you for the compliment, Jackie. I’ve been around a long time and have had a lot of experiences. :-)

     
     
    Comment by Melissa Donovan
    2008-03-11 16:28:01

    This is an intense story, and I admire your courage. After the robber threatened to kill you if you contacted the police, I was on the edge of my seat wondering what you would choose to do. It was a horrible experience but you rose above it by walking away having learned a few things, and that’s admirable.

    This is also wonderfully written :)

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-11 16:37:31

    Thank you, Melissa! I appreciate the compliment on the writing in view of the conversation on your blog regarding writing well!

    It never occurred to me not to report the crime to the police, although I confess I did have some anxiety. I told myself he couldn’t know who I was … but I couldn’t forget the emergency contact information with my name and phone number in the window of the store. The police believed that this man actually had more victims than the ones he was charged with (eleven, if I remember correctly). He made the same threat to all the known victims, and police suspect other victims were too terrified to report the robbery.

     
     
    Comment by Karen Putz
    2008-03-12 09:39:23

    Lillie, how scary that must have been! It saddens me to know that this guy is out of prison despite such a long sentence.

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-12 11:49:32

    We can only hope and pray that prison rehabilitated him. Perhaps he got off drugs - when he was arrested, he told the police the last thing he remembered was doing drugs with Greg Altman’s rock band in Atlanta. The car he was driving was a rental that was reported stolen because he never returned it after renting it weeks before.

    His lawyer kept saying he was incompetent to stand trial because of brain damage from drugs. However, he was aware of my husband always showing up every time he went to court and was heard asking his attorney, “Who’s that guy that keeps birddogging me?” So he wasn’t as “out of it” as was portrayed.

     
     
    Comment by Yvonne Russell
    2008-03-12 11:25:31

    Oh my gosh, Lillie. This is such a powerful story and beautifully written. It’s also a wonderful testament to the relationship you have with your husband.

    Thanks for sharing it.

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-12 11:50:14

    Thank you for the compliment, Yvonne. My husband is a great blessing.

     
     
    Comment by Thai
    2008-03-13 11:44:25

    What a terrible thing that happened to you. I’m glad the police were able to catch this scum. Your comment about not caring about the credit leading to greater productivity is one I use everyday

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-03-13 12:19:36

    Glad to hear you don’t care about who gets the credit - too many people are more concerned about getting credit than solving the problem.

     
     
    2008-06-07 14:12:44

    Holy cow what a crazy story! I’m glad they caught the guy and you’re alright.

    -Jeff
    buyrosevillepottery.com

    Comment by Lillie
    2008-06-07 15:26:15

    Thanks! I’m glad they caught him, too.

     
     
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