Tips and Tricks: How to Write, Send, Reply, and Forward E-Mail
September 15, 2007 by Lillie
First I saw the “How-To” Group Writing Project at BlueJar.com. Then I read that Daily Blog Tips is sponsoring a group writing project with the subject of Tips and Tricks.
Since I’ve been planning a post to share tips and tricks on how to write effective e-mails, the post seemed to be a perfect match for both writing projects.
Internet-savvy readers may read this advice and say, “Well … duh … everybody knows that.” But look through the e-mails you receive every day, and you’ll realize NOT everybody knows that.
Writing an Original E-Mail Message:
- Write in language and tone appropriate for the subject and recipient – consider your audience. If you’re inviting your best friend to a barbecue, you can use emoticons and ROFLOL all you want. If you’re submitting a query letter to an agent, contacting a prospective client, or participating in a professional discussion in a business group, you want to send a professional letter.
- Create a good subject line for your message. The subject line is the headline that should get the recipient’s attention and make them want to read the message. It may also help your reader find the message at a later date. The subject is not the place to be vague or cutesy: “hi,” “here it is,” or “our conversation” – or worse yet, no subject at all – don’t give the recipient much of a clue about the contents of the message. Examples of subjects more likely to make sense to the recipient are “Query: Romantic Suspense Novel,” “Proposal for Networking Workshop,” “Follow-up on Our Conversation about Book Trailers.”
- If you need help writing the body of the message, look for specific writing advice, such as persuasive writing.
- Spell-check and proofread your message before hitting Send. Spell-check will catch many errors, but it won’t catch it’s for its, they’re for their, or then for than. It also won’t catch missing words (one of my big downfalls) or grammar and punctuation errors, so you need to read your message through – possibly several times.
Sending E-Mail:
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Be careful to type the name and e-mail address correctly. Your brilliant message won’t get results if it disappears into cyberspace because you used an incorrect address. If you’re using an address from your address book, double-check that you’ve selected the right name. Imagine my embarrassment when I accidentally sent a message intended for my husband to another Jack!
- If you’re sending to a group of recipients, consider using BCC rather than putting all the addresses in the To or CC line. In some cases, such as group e-mails within a project team, all the addresses should be public. In many cases, however, it is better to protect the privacy of your recipients.
- You can also send a group message with the recipients hidden. In most e-mail programs, you can create an entry with a generic name such as “My Clients” and include all the addresses. When you send a message to “My Clients,” everyone on the list receives the message, but it is addressed to “My Clients” instead of the clients’ names. This may be appropriate for a generic announcement – your vacation schedule, for example.
- At other times, you may want to send the same message to several people but make the message appear to be personal. Depending on your e-mail program, you can create a draft or send a message again, changing only the address and perhaps a salutation with the person’s name each time.
Replying to E-Mail:
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If the original message was addressed to multiple recipients, usually you want to “reply to all” so that everyone receives your response. For a team collaborating on a project, replying to the sender only will mean that not all members of the team are involved in the discussion. Information will have to be re-distributed, progress may be delayed, and some members of the team may end up working at cross-purposes.
- Sometimes you want to respond only to the sender of the message with a private comment that isn’t part of the general discussion. Make sure you hit “reply” rather than “reply to all.”
- Usually you want to include at least part of the original message in your reply. I have received replies to messages after several days that don’t include any of the original message, and I have no idea what the person is talking about (especially when s/he doesn’t use the same subject). If your e-mail program doesn’t include any of the original message, copy and paste enough of it so your reply makes sense to someone who has read hundreds of messages before receiving your reply.
- If your e-mail program includes the entire original message, consider snipping part of it, especially if it long. Including only as much of the original as is needed for understanding is critical in e-mail lists and discussion groups, especially those with an option for daily digest instead of individual messages. Reading the same message over and over again is annoying as well as time-consuming.
- On the other hand, I include the entire message when trying to resolve a problem or get a result. For example: You send an e-mail to tech support and receive a response that doesn’t solve the problem. Include your original message and the response in your reply – your second message may go to a different person, and it helps if s/he knows what has already been tried. Even if you are communicating with the same person, s/he probably won’t remember the details of your issue. Having everything in a single e-mail will save time.
Forwarding an E-Mail Message:
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Consider carefully before forwarding an original message you receive from another person. The message is the intellectual property of the writer, and the writer may not want other people to know what they wrote. Always obtain permission before you forward. Most e-mail discussion groups have a firm policy that nothing posted to the list can be sent outside the group.
- Although the cute sayings, jokes, photos, inspirational videos, political rants, and other miscellaneous “forwards” are not the intellectual property of the people who send them to you, they probably are the intellectual property of the originator. Two of my friends have had all the words from children’s picture books forwarded around the world in e-mail. The people forwarding the cute stories don’t realize they are violating the authors’ copyrights, but they are. They are also jeopardizing the income of writers who make their livings from books.
- Many of the “forwards” are hoaxes, urban legends, or outdated true stories. If you feel the urge to click “forward” every time you get an e-mail claiming you’ll earn money for forwarding an e-mail or begging you to add your name to an e-mail petition or asking for help finding a missing child, check the facts at Hoaxbusters, Snopes.com or Truth or Fiction. There is no way to track e-mail forwards, so there’s no way you’ll be paid or win a prize for forwarding an advertising message to X number of people. E-mail petitions are useless – every time a new person sends the message out, the petition branches off and just keeps going, with no central collection point. If you want to sign a petition, do so online where the petitions are collected in one central location. While your heart may be touched by the plight of a sick or missing child, you’ll find that many are outright hoaxes; most that are true are long outdated – the child has returned, recovered, or died. Once a message starts its way through cyberspace, it goes on forever.
- When you forward a message, delete all the extraneous information and send only the pertinent part of the message. Often several people will have forwarded the message without cleaning it up, so there are several sets of header information and comments like, “Awesome!” If you want your recipient(s) to know when and from whom you received the message, leave the major items in the headers (to, from, subject, date), but delete all the routing information. The only exception to this is if the header information will mean something to the recipient, for example, an e-mail to tech support for help with a problem or a message to an ISP complaining about spam.
Time-Saving Tips and Tricks:
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Create templates for messages that you send often: answers to common customer service questions, reminders of regular events, recurring messages. Depending on your e-mail program, you can save these templates as drafts or stationery. Just update and personalize the draft and send it as needed.
- Organize your e-mail using folders and filters. You may have to read the Help file (horrors!) to learn how to do this in your e-mail program, but you should find it worth the time and effort to set it up. I have filters on my incoming messages so that newsletters go into one folder and discussion group lists go into another folder. I have far fewer messages in my Inbox, and most of those are messages I need to read and respond to. When I’m rushed, I can ignore the newsletters and group lists.
- Keep your Inbox, Outbox, and Junk folders cleaned out. Every time I check e-mail, I go through my Inbox, read messages, and either reply, delete, or transfer them to another folder: Current Projects for items needing prompt action or the appropriate folder for storage. I have a folder for “Clients,” then subfolders for individual clients; a folder for my church, then subfolders for various ministries and projects; and folders for a number of organizations and projects. When I finish an e-mail session, I follow the same process with messages in the Outbox and delete junk mail. My e-mail program is set to empty trash when the program is closed. Your system will be different, but you may find you save a lot of time by keeping your Inbox empty and your messages organized.
Whether you’re a newbie to the Internet or a pro e-mailer, I hope you’ve found a useful tip or trick here. And I hope you’ll share your own e-mail tips and tricks in a comment.
Note added 9/19/07: Be sure to read the comments for suggested additions to these tips.
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Great tips! Good e-mail communication is more important than most writers realize. For those of us who work from home, it may be the first impression that the client gets of us.
I agree. I think too many people overlook this important asset – COMMUNICATION SKILLS. The client will always judge you based on your professionalism through email.
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Jennifer,
A lot of people forget that an e-mail is a professional communication when it relates to business or is to a client, prospective client, colleague, vendor …
Laura,
You’re right that for many freelancers, much of our business is done via e-mail.
One thing I don’t see on your list of tips and tricks I’ve seen you do is send separate messages to the same person. Is there a reason you do that? Please share this so I can make my e-mails even better.
“Mr. Lillie”,
Thank you for reminding me. I should have included that in my post
When I have two topics to cover with someone, I discuss each topic in a separate message. Sometimes if two topics are covered in the same message, the recipient forgets to respond to both. I’m guilty of this sometimes myself – especially if I have to do some research on one of the topics.
The other reason goes back to the tip on using specific subject lines. It’s easier to keep track of messages if the subject corresponds to the body of the mail. For example, I have separate folders for my church, including one for the newsletter and one for the Web site. If someone sends me a message with information for the newsletter AND an update to the Web site, I have to be sure I take both actions before I reply, then I have to decide in which folder to file the message.
Usually, I copy and paste the specific items I’m responding to in separate messages and send two replies to one message so I can file each message in the appropriate folder. But it would be easier if the sender had sent two separate messages.
Thanks for a very exhaustive list
I was surprised that many of my friends didn’t know what to do with the “Reply To All” or “CC” function (and there is at least one difference between the two).
Perhaps we should incorporate “Email Lessons” into our university syllabus
Thanks for these great tips, now if only we could send it as an email to all of the people that REALLY need it! Where I work, so many people send emails without considering the subject line, many times it’s blank, and very frustrating.
Not a bad article.
pelf,
E-mail should be covered somewhere in college courses. It’s such an important part of everyone’s daily life, yet so many people need help.
Stephen,
I’m tempted to send a link to this post to some of the people who send me e-mails … but they probably wouldn’t appreciate it.
Felix,
I’m aiming for “good” rather than “not bad” … but “not bad” is better than “not good”!
Lillie, a good article to remind all of us how important email is these days.
My hands sometimes get all sweaty when I am composing a very important email, such as one to a client. I’ll often save it, come back to it, and then proofread it twice simply to make sure that my tone comes across professionally and with clarity.
I’ve seen too many rushed emails from businesses that should never had been sent without having been proofread first.
Matt,
Good advice to save your message as a draft and come back to it to review before sending. It’s awful to see a glaring typo right AFTER you hit send.
Laura Spencer has a post at Work From Home Momma referring to these tips and tricks.
She suggests two additions:
1) Have a spam filter installed. I mentioned I don’t get much spam because I have a good filter, but I failed to emphasize the importance of a good spam filter.
2) Wait to send a message if you are upset or extremely tired. Hold off until you are calmed down and feeling more alert to write (or at least to edit) an e-mail to avoid saying something you’ll regret later
Thanks for mentioning this advice, Laura, and thanks for your valuable additions.
Lillie,
Thanks for referencing my post!
You’re certainly welcome, Laura. Thanks for pointing out two things I overlooked.
Some sensible advice and the tips and tricks are very worthwhile, they can save so much time after you get yourself set up to use them. It’s just the making it a habit which is difficult.
MDB,
Forming good habits is always a challenge … but it pays off in the long run. I’m glad you found the tips helpful.
Very nice tips on email use, I would also repeat, that after you get email urging you to forward it to all in your address book, then check it on hoax listings. It will save time you and your friends!
Alex,
Thank you for reinforcing one of my pet peeves.
Great tips, and surprisingly there are many people who need them!
The forever forwarding emails are one of my pet peeves. Most of the time I don’t even read them and I never send them on, with the very rare exception (a funny story, not a hoax email).
I also wish that the same group of people who are always forwarding the hoax emails would send them BCC instead of listing everyone’s address.
JoLynn,
I’m tempted to forward this list to all the people who are always sending me hoaxes and junk with zillions of addresses.
Thanks, Lillie! You’ve certainly covered the topic thoroughly–not to mention admirably!
While I’ve just cleaned out my inbox and recently started labelling my e-mail messages, I have yet to use folders. This sounds like an excellent way to further organize my many e-mails. Thanks for that tip–as well as all the others!
Jeanne
Great tips, and very informative for effective communication through emails.
Yes, this is so true. I am always taking the role of educator about hoaxes being forwarded by email (I usually send them back hoax description site). People don’t even read it, just hit forward. But i worked, now they don’t send me such things and even ask if it is hoax.
Some nice quote for you:
The mind is intricately linked to the brain, just as the brain is linked to the rest of the body. The mind is also intricately linked to you, the self. The mind (and the intelligence) connect you to the brain and thus to the rest of the body.
So true. I send so many emails but never considered your tips before. Very useful post thanks!
bewegende,
I’m glad you found the tips helpful.
Although I replied to every comment when it was made, threaded comments (which included my respones) were lost when I moved my blog.
I think emails should sound personal and sound like they are made for the recipient and not like a template spam email. The more personal you are, the more likely your email will get read and not deleted immediately.
John,
That’s a good point. I agree e-mails should be suited for the recipient.
Lillie, on several occasions I forget to attach the attachment if any. I think checking your attachment should also be included so that you will not sound stupid. If you are using outlook there is a VBA code which pops up a message reminding of your subject line and attachment each time you hit the send button, so that you can take extra care on those two areas. As usual your tips are mind blowing and highly useful. You always make me to wonder. Thanks!
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Girish,
Excellent point. I should have included that tip and also mention that it’s best not to send attachments unless you know the person and/or have permission to do so. For example, when sending a query letter for a writing job or a resume for a job application, find out whether the recipient accepts attachments. Some companies don’t allow attachments and prefer the information in the body of an e-mail.
Nice tips. I especially hate it when my colleagues use LOL and Plz language in official emails. It can’t get worse from there
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Anand,
I agree with you. Even in casual conversation, I find that kind of texting shorthand confusing. It takes me longer to figure out what they mean than it would take to write the words correctly.
Thanks for the advice. With the amount of emails and texts I send a day, I could really use a tip or two.
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Philip,
I’m glad you found the tips helpful.
1) Have a spam filter installed like postini. I mentioned I don’t get much spam because I have a good filter, but I failed to emphasize the importance of a good spam filter.
2) Wait to send a message if you are upset or extremely tired. Hold off until you are calmed down and feeling more alert to write (or at least to edit) an e-mail to avoid saying something you’ll regret later
Thanks for mentioning this advice.
Dennis,
Two good tips. Thanks!
There are some great email communication tips here
great list, thanks alot..
Roy,
I’m glad you found the list of tips helpful.
Theres some great email tips here.
Im still shocked at the amount of spelling mistakes in some emails.
Spell Check people!!!
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Billy,
It seems that many people don’t consider spelling important in e-mail, but, of course, as an editor, I do! And, as you say, it’s easy to use spell-check. That won’t eliminate using their or there and similar errors, but it will certainly prevent some of the most egregious errors.
Excellent Tips again, I am a bit lazy in proof reading it again, but will do it going forward as it is important part of email communication.
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Vinish,
Yes, proofreading is important, especially in business e-mails.
Really good advice Lillie. I am just starting to realise I eed to go with the flow and start e.mailing more instead of constant phone calls.
lynne,
I seldom talk on the phone. I do as much as possible by e-mail. It saves time because you can each respond at your convenience and don’t have to keep calling back and forth, and you have a written record of what was said to avoid confusion later on.
Some of what is mentioned above are pretty basic but there are times that they are not given much importance like spell check and intellectual property issues. Writer or not, what you write leaves an impression to your reader/email recipient. This post is very helpful Lillie. You have incorporated the important points of email etiquette.
Thanks, Jane. As you say, most of what I said is quite basic, but I know from all the e-mails I get that many people do not know or at least don’t follow the etiquette.
Useful tips. How about having your own personalized email account instead of using free email accounts?
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Willy,
Good idea–especially important for businesses and professional people.
Thank you so much for these helpful tips and tricks. I’ll be hoping that you could post more email marketing topics here in your blog.
Thanks,
Vic
Vic,
I won’t be posting any more about e-mail marketing because I don’t know the first thing about it.
I’m glad if this post is helpful in that arena, but I really wrote it for the general public who send personal and business e-mails.
One of my pet peeves is constantly seeing people misuse similar sounding words, such as to and too; they’re, there, and their; affect and effect; your and you’re; it’s and its; etc. We’re too worried about students’ self-esteem and not enough about their academics. We’re turning kids out of high school that can’t do basic math and lack proper grammar skills. That’s enough for my rant. As for emails that have been forwarded around a lot, it’s very simple to cut and paste the body of the message into a new email so you’re not forwarding everyone else’s email address around. Using the blind carbon copy (BCC) feature is always a good idea to protect privacy, though it’s not usually useful in a work situation.
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Carl,
I agree with you. Of course, we all make typos occasionally, but when a document is riddled with errors, it’s almost impossible to read—at least for an editor.
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